Salam alaikom Muslims,

What we go through in our daily lives might look ugly and tough, when we are inside the situation looking at it with our own eyes only. It gets worse with time, when our perception intensifies it to make it just more and more significant, while it might have been a tiny negligible detail not worthy of our attention.

We may find ourselves spinning in never-ending frustrating loops, and dragged lower and lower in negative cycles.

Personally; I have been trapped lately in a similar situation, where certain situations used to try controlling the flow of my life, which is completely unacceptable to a mindset like mine. In fact, this had been one of the lowest points (I did not notice back then), where I invested too much time and energy just to flow against the current, to keep standing still on my solid grounds. I have also forever hated hypocrisy, and disrespected fake socialization and compliments that are targeted towards attaining personal gains regardless the harm caused to others and it always showed on my face and reactions. Maybe this fight might not have paid well at certain points where I was subject to criticism, and attack, and I had to justify and explain to people who treat life in a pure extreme fashion, yet; being a non-vulnerable person helped me temporarily. I am also not very sensitive regarding exposures, and it is obvious that through my blogs, I do not mind exposing some personal experiences relentlessly on my blogs for others to benefit from. It requires being courageous especially when most people won’t take the risk to do so and make us feel like strangers.

Permanetly, what really helped me more than being courageous when I used to break out is asking Allah secretly for his help by praying “صلاة حاجة” aka the prayer of Need or Salat Al-Haja; a prayer which a Muslim prays when they are in need of Allah’s help. I remember leaning on the wall crying, after finishing the prayer, where my head felt very heavy, but the wall was still, and did not move, which made the situation less dramatic for me :)

Those lonely silent prayers paid back greater day by day, hamdulillah. And I learn that:

If we find ourselves spinning in never-ending loops >> we should step out of them or they will waste more and more of our time and energy

If we are being dragged lower and lower in negative cycles >> we should break them or our views will become pessimistic and based on those negative experiences

Remember:

We always need to take lead of our lives and not leave them to other people’s discretion or to the production of coincidence.

Waiting is a tactic, and never a strategy. Yet; trying to race badly with time to stay abreast of events might exhaust our brains only to find ourselves with an unexpected lag on the timeline. We should try to remain mature and determinant enough to balance at the end of the day.

And most importantly:

No continuous negative cycle is broken unless we break it

No consistent frustrating loop is overcome until we step out of it

It may take changing the place, engaging with new people, or adopting a new lifestyle, so think and plan wisely.

In all cases, we should not hand the steering to other situations or persons, which includes holding the responsibility of our actions and commitments, simply because:

We are here today because of decisions made yesterday…

The decisions we make today are the commitments of tomorrow…

May Allah bless what is remaining from the holy month of Ramadan for all Muslims, and grant them the power to invest their time wisely, to become more productive, effective, positive, and optimistic for the benefit of this life and the hereafter.

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